How Can We Support Children, Older People and Vulnerable Individuals?
So far, we have discussed how we can take care of our own mental health. But the reality is that during war, we are not the only ones affected. Children, older people, people with disabilities and those living with chronic illnesses are often more vulnerable and may need more support than others.
Children
First, let's talk about children.
Sometimes adults believe that if they do not talk to children about war, children will not understand what is happening.
However, research shows that even when children do not fully understand events, they can sense the anxiety and worry of the people around them.
A child may become more attached to their parents than before.
They may have nightmares at night.
They may become quieter.
They may become angry more easily.
Or they may begin showing behaviours they had previously stopped, such as bedwetting or fear of being alone.
These reactions are not always signs of illness.
Sometimes they simply indicate that a child has lost their sense of safety.
How Should We Talk to Children?
The first important point is to allow children to ask questions.
If a child asks you:
“Will the war reach us too?”
Or:
“Are we safe?”
Try to respond calmly and in a way that is appropriate for their age.
You do not need to explain every detail.
But it is better not to lie.
If you do not know the answer to something, it is okay to say:
“I don't know the exact answer right now, but I will share any information I have with you.”
This honesty helps maintain the child's trust.
Do Not Expose Children to Violent Images
These days, many images and videos are shared on social media.
Many of these images are distressing even for adults.
Therefore, as much as possible, do not allow children to watch such images repeatedly.
Maintain a Daily Routine
If possible, try to keep regular times for sleeping, eating, playing and studying.
This simple routine gives children a greater sense of security.
Listen to Children's Feelings
Sometimes a child simply wants someone to listen.
You do not always need to have a solution.
Sometimes listening is more important than answering.
Older People
Now, let's talk about older people.
Older people may experience greater worries during war. Some have chronic illnesses. Others live alone.
Some may have difficulty obtaining medication or visiting a doctor. Sometimes they may also feel that they are a burden on others.
If you have an older person in your family, try to stay in contact with them more often.
Ask them:
“How are you feeling?”
“Do you need anything?”
These simple questions can help reduce their feelings of loneliness.
If they take regular medication, make sure that essential medicines are available as much as possible.
People with Disabilities or Chronic Illnesses
These individuals may face additional difficulties during a crisis.
For example, accessing healthcare services, medication or transportation may become more difficult for them.
If a family member is in this situation, it is better to plan ahead for their needs.
Keep essential medicines and the contact numbers of doctors or people who can help easily accessible.
If Someone We Love Is Experiencing Emotional Distress
A family member may cry frequently.
Or become silent.
Or become angry easily.
In such situations, the first thing we should do is not necessarily offer advice.
Sometimes we simply need to be there for them.
Listen to what they have to say.
Avoid judging them.
And reassure them that they are not alone.
In many cases, this simple support can be very valuable.